Get What You Want

Pessimistic people can  have tunnel vision as they tend to focus on one thing, often the problem. Optimism allows the brain to take in more information and process more of your environment.

Knowing the basics of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) creates an excellent basis for personal development making it easier for people to change their thoughts and actions. Here are 7 stages of personal change leading you to think positive and get what you want.

Stage 1: Developing Awareness
The motivation for change begins with the feeling that we aren’t fulfilling our full potential in at least one area of our life. This awareness can be subtle at first and it leads to your personal recognition that something needs to be adjusted either in your mindset or in a practical area of your life. Even before you can put your finger on the particular source of internal discomfort, you feel it on some level.

Stage 2: Discovery
The discovery stage is where your conscious mind has located the primary source of your discomfort and you are becoming more aware of its presence. At this stage you may experience some resistance from your ego. The human ego often seeks refuge in denial, where it pretends that your discomfort is resulting from a source that’s external to you opposed to an internal one. For personal change to occur beyond this stage, it’s crucial that we accept that the source of our uneasiness is within ourselves and most importantly, in our ability to control. 

Stage 3: Ownership
We must take sole responsibility for our discomfort or unease with courage to fully acknowledge that the source of our problem/s is internal and not external. At this stage, we consciously recognize that it is our thought patterns, emotional inconsistencies, lifestyle habits, perception, limiting beliefs or poor reasoning that needs to be amended. We alone are in control of how it is that we choose to respond or react to the circumstances/situations that we find ourselves in. In life, empowerment comes from taking responsibility and assuming full ownership of any given situation.

Stage 4: Exposure
In this stage, in the process of change we expand our search to identify the habit or attitude that has stopped serving us. This can be challenging for many reasons. The most important are: 1) logic is seldom a useful tool in the emotional arena and 2) we tend to assume that our beliefs are universal truths and consistently look for ways to justify them. Once we recognize that we’ve been held back or limited by a particular idea, we will then have both logic and emotion supporting our desire for change.

Stage 5: Intention
This is the threshold of personal change. You have identified an old belief (or behaviour pattern), and you are now motivated to replace it with something more useful. You’re ready to move away from your previous stage and embrace the new. It’s time to choose a direction. Upon reaching this stage in the process of change, it is relatively easy to identify what your desired state is (where you want to be). The same comparison process that exposed your source of initial discomfort will have now revealed the end goal of your ideal future. At this point, embrace a proactive mindset and formulate your plan of action !

Stage 6: Action
Taking consistent action is the only means by which an individual can achieve real time results. If you don’t take an action, nothing will change and your discomfort with the present reality will intensify due to your now greater awareness of it. Taking an action demands that we let go of fear and limiting beliefs, and embrace faith and uncertainty, as we step out of the comfort zone and move towards where we envisage ourselves being.

Stage 7: Integration
This is the last phase of the process of personal growth where change has happened. What started with a mental awareness, a need for adjustment has resulted in an evolution in your journey of personal growth and development. You have now grown in your appreciation of what’s achievable for you, and you are letting go of an established belief or pattern of behaviour that wasn’t serving you any more. 

Living Backwards

If you have ever moved anywhere or completed any project, you intuitively know the key is to work backwards from a point, that is, to imagine the future your looking at, and observing what is necessary for you to evolve and catch up.   

-Consider these 4 options below to living backwards-

1. Detail the end vision (where are you ? what are you doing ? For whom ? Why ?

2.Work backwards creating milestones ( how to get from here to there-mind to heartfelt )

3. Notice how you feel where you stand (what is missing ? )

4. Focus on passion of being alive, here, now in this moment ( presence ) 

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On The Right Path

Its common to wonder whether you are getting anywhere. You may have a vision of where you see yourself, a message you wish to convey, or be working on a project and feel impatient or confused about the results. 

Ponder these five hints below that everything is unfolding perfectly. 

-You are increasingly honest with yourself-
The more you express how you feel, right where you are and what you want or not, the more you begin to see the power and vibrational energy of honesty in action. The universe is always listening. It is a soundboard that echoes back your feelings and emotions in different forms.

-You grow more open and receptive-
In modern day, we are bombarded with messages, opportunities, mail and advertising. Notice how often you say to yourself you keep receiving what you never asked for and do not want. Step back. Reflect again. Whatever you ask for is always given. You have a role in co-creating everything that enters your scope. You decide what to notice and how to respond. Imagine how your experience shifts as you choose to notice what is helping or could help you rather than what is lacking, frustrating or confusing you.  

-You notice more synchronicities-
Everything you need (i.e. people and opportunities) are ever-present. Whomever and whatever shows up in your radar appears for a purpose.What is it about striking up conversations with strangers who have relatives in the place you are moving to or, have familiarity with something you wish to learn about ? Just happen to notice an opportunity that resonates with your soul ? 

-You speak as if its already done-
When you are confident and visualize details of your vision coming together promptly, this cannot help but present itself to you. You must believe  in yourself before anyone else will (including the universe that co-creates with you). Things come together as the result of taking more responsibility for your actions, perception and growing aware of everything you choose not to see. If ever you allow doubt to cloud your vision or imagine any possibility other than a blossoming vision, then you are creating a very different kind of experience. Being in harmony with yourself is about thoughts, words and deeds being all in harmony. Focus on wellness, optimum functioning and trust heartfelt intuition at every apparent curve in the road. 

-You make the most of whatever happens-
This is about choosing to love rather than to fear, to connect with people rather than detach or disconnect. It is about making the most of where you are, being spontaneous, laughing more, seeing the best possible outcome, even feeling joy at an outdoor event in a rainstorm while drenched. All events can be felt as stepping stones to a higher vibrational perception of wherever you are. When you seem to get lemons, watch what happens as you choose to make lemonade !

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