A Whole New Way Of Existing


When you feel that something is not working on your terms or timeline, you may feel frustrated. Its moments such as these where it pays to reframe events and recognize the genius of your brain's adaptive strategies. 

In order to grow aware of and accept your own sheer brilliance, it is  valuable to shift focus from negative energy and discomfort to grow aware of what is really going on. Ever wonder what the signs and signals of your body-mind are saying ? Ready to decode them ?

Consider the examples of; anger, depression, anxiety, stress, trauma, drug addiction, rashes, and self destructive behaviors and dysfunctional relationships. Every human being is wired for survival. The ego exists to self-protect. This is what the body and mind are up to as you repress, suppress and dissociate from what troubles you. Its part of the strategy.

When ready, you can retrain your brain, your mind as well as your palette for life just as you can shift which foods and flavors appeal to you. It takes time to be attracted to and enjoy foods, behaviors and experiences of what is natural and good without self-judgement. Get ready to embrace a whole new way of existing. Invite a new level of satisfaction.

From the moment you understand why you do the things you do, you are empowered  to make positive and lasting change. This applies to not only how you view yourself, but also how you interact in the world. As you let go and stop wanting things so badly, it seems miraculous yet suddenly, what you need comes to you without effort. Insight to ponder: what does surrender look and feel like in your life ? What could it look like as you embrace it more fully ?

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Rendez Vous


 A popular question that arises is how to catch up with destiny. Many people admit they view destiny as a kind of carrot at the end of a fishing line they feel they are often chasing. Although life purpose may change at different life stages, destiny is viewed as your unique and ultimate reason for being. Does this confuse you ? You may be asking what you need to do, where to go, to feel at ease or in harmony with yourself. Reflect on the tips below to rendez vous with your destiny.

-Recognize your comfort zone-
This entails recognizing your comfort zone in different areas of your life and how this limits you.  In general, the more rigid your (or your kids) schedule, the more comfort zones you have created. If you are caring for other people, (i.e., relations, pets or friends), the more jam-packed their routine, the more you fear letting go of control, the more you fear spontaneity, fear being incapable of creating something new, lasting and enriching in your life or feel uncomfortable stepping into the unfamiliar. Conscious awareness of why you do things greatly empowers you.

-Find the courage to heal-
Comfort zones do not just happen.  They are a symptom of repressed, suppressed negative emotions, unhealed pain and mental suffering. Finding courage to heal implies the willingness to grow aware of unconscious triggers and habits, how you numb out or shift focus from the root cause. This involves exploring character traits, possible co-dependence, self-sabotage and fear-based action which blocks intimacy, true connection, personal & professional fulfillment. 

-Stretch yourself-
Watch what unfolds as you envision yourself beyond your current circumstances. Depending on your readiness, this could mean taking up a course or training, shifting into a new vocation, moving away from a familiar home or entourage. Every instance you do something differently, even taking a new route to work, choosing to wear more comfortable shoes, or openly confiding intimate details of your life without fear of vulnerability, you are tasting more of your destiny. 

-Adopt an optimistic attitude-
The moment is ripe to see how you function with an optimistic attitude. Listen to your thoughts and words more closely. How often do you hear yourself saying, "this is not possible because..." or "the time is not right because...?" Be aware of how often you talk yourself out of what you want, what feels right or do not even allow yourself to explore possibilities. Who is really in charge here? Being optimistic is part of the process of reclaiming personal power you gave away.

-Stop acting to appease others-
Whether or not its obvious to you at this stage, you are not always acting based on your own heart-felt desires and dreams. Self-acceptance does not depend on the nature and intensity of your fitness practices or the amount of what you accomplish in the eyes of family or mentors and role models you admire. As you recognize and stop unconscious behaviors that arise to appease others, you move into that place where you do things you only used to speak or dream about.   

-Tap into unused potential-
Imagine the possibility you only use a fraction of your innate intelligence, wisdom and resources. Remind yourself the moment is ripe to access diverse skills and abilities that you habitually fail to see and use. Know and accept that within you are powers that facilitate everything imaginable you could become. 

-Set new goals-
Watch what happens as you give up complacency in favor of extending your wings more fully, of raising the bar for yourself. Imagine what it feels like to blossom beyond self-created boundaries. Set new goals that draw out the best in you. Work toward those things that enable you to develop a sense of mastery and peak performance.  

-Imagine no limitations-
Take a few moments to imagine you have no limitations in terms of money, no time constraints, health issues, no obstacles to contacts, experience, knowledge or education. That is, imagine whatever you write is possible for you, provided you want it genuinely and are willing to make whatever efforts and sacrifices are necessary.

-Build unshakable self-confidence-
It may surprise you but the mere act of writing dreams on paper takes a concept to the next level while building your self-confidence. Focusing physical and mental energy on specific ideas gives them life. The process of adding detail and taking steps to realize it generates a greater sense of personal power and ability.

-Achieve peak performance-
Achieving peak performance happens as you clarify goals, challenge and revise your own standards, invite feedback, do not take things personally, give yourself heart and soul to what enables you to feel harmony within yourself. This may seem like a big ask or a tall order. Yet, it happens naturally when you are in a state of flow because you function with extraordinary energy and clarity. Everything comes together. Uncover what you are uniquely qualified to do and be and align with self-respect, integrity and create connection and impact and make a huge difference without effort. 

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Shades Of Grey


Black and white are truly decisive colors that can be interesting at times, and even at other times necessary. But there is nothing that truly brings out the beauty and truth in life than the many shades of grey. There are things that are definitely black or white, but if you were to paint everything over with just black or white, you would lose so many beautiful and amazing details that you could otherwise notice and that might help you to have a better perspective should you add a bit of grey !

Too many of us tend to make that very mistake when judging a situation, or when arriving to a decision. We apply the black or white rule and leave out the various shades of grey. If you go into any situation with a bucket of just black or white you risk missing out on a lot of beautiful details that could make the overall picture be so much more clear and relatable.

Life, love, relationships, politics, business, religion, and in fact everything has many different shades of grey. If you want to make it in any one thing, take your nose out of your paint bucket, then take a few steps back and then look at the canvas. As you focus on things with your  new perspective, you might find that adding those shades of grey will complete your masterpiece, better your life and help you grow closer to the world around you !

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